This may be the single biggest thing I’ve realized since my “leave,” while most moms just need a break to get out, that idea is failing me miserably. I hate going out alone, and I really really hate going out in the winter. It’s called Raynauds and I’m cold, though the cute handwarmers I won at the bazaar and have not taken off all day are fun. I think I may need a pair in every color though! Really the only time I have ever enjoyed going out alone is to the beach, where “He walks with me and He talks with me and He tells me I am his own.” That probably explains why I lost the dog the last warm day I was out gardening alone too It also explains why I went from needing my Adoration hour like the air I breathe to dreading it. When I changed my time slot, I had no idea I was picking the busiest hour of the week. It was like the chapel had a revolving door. I know, that’s awesome! Praise the Lord! Yet for an introvert who finds renewed energy in seclusion, it felt like fighting to get through a WalMart line on Black Friday.
So after much discernment I took some time to find some time and have some time to just listen. I assumed God was going to show me I’d been using busy work to stay away from Him, but to my delight I found that wasn’t His answer at all. In fact last weekend, when I ran away to work behind the scenes at the church bazaar for 2 days, I was recharged and rejuvenated! In the midst of my busy work, I found myself engaged in conversation with the Lord, like I haven’t known in far too long for a human soul. I thought of how St Therese would do little things in love and offer them to the Lord. I thought of how moms are always told as we do our dishes offer them to the Lord, and then I thought, “but how do I do that when I have 5 people constantly hanging on me, talking to me, needing me, wanting me, and pulling me in 5 directions?” Truly it is a blessing, don’t misunderstand, and I am painfully aware I’m going to miss this, but it it doesn’t allow an introvert, certainly not one with ADHD, 1 on 1 time with God.
Then today I realized my 1 day of leave a week for the past 4 has really only been 2. I lost 1 when my husband was travelling for work, and the other is the day before Thanksgiving. I haven’t even technically lost it yet, but just the thought of it has me sinking. I’m hungry for that time alone with the Lord. My husband had challenged me to think about how I would feel when I returned in January if things weren’t different, and today I realized I’d go back into drought. God isn’t calling me back into a drought, but He’s also not calling me away from loving the little ones He’s entrusted in my care and blessed me to teach. I miss them so much! He’s not calling me away from the passion He placed inside me for the hybrid school or the calling He’s given me that brings me so much life either. So how do I prepare for my journey back? If something has to give, what is it?
That is when I realized the answer, today at Mass actually. Everyone knows every once in a while a stay at home mom needs to break away for awhile, but what about the introverted mom? Introverts don’t need to just get out and get away for a few hours. That will just exhaust them. Introverts need everyone else in the house to go out and get away for a few hours. I know God has called me to home-school, and to love my children of course, but He’s also called me to enjoy every precious moment with them, realizing the sands of time slip through my fingers too fast and I can’t get those years back.Through World Wide Marriage Encounter I am finding a new found freedom to fully embrace God’s vocation for my life as my husband’s wife. I am learning to free myself from the judgement, criticisms, old tapes, and guilt that condemn me for not giving my kids 500% 24/7. I’m learning I can be loved for being imperfect, and though those stories would be an Elijah House blog, I must say, my dh has always been amazing to swoop in and love me in all my imperfection.
With all of this information, I feel like I’m sitting in the middle of a room holding a piece to a puzzle saying God, how could I possibly be Your Masterpiece? How do I be the stay at home, home schooling mom, who holds down the fort while my husband travels, and gives my all because I want to answer the call, but then still needs solitude! My support system says go out and have some you time, but that’s the very last thing I want! Truly, I just want to stay in and have some me and You time. It seems like it’s just all backwards, or does it? Maybe the gift to the introverted stay at home mom is to give her a day off in her home, a day when she gets to just sit by the fire, and listen to music, and look over pictures, cry, pray, dance, laugh out loud, and be free to be with her Heavenly Father…. We’ll see how well this goes over, but I’m thinking if the question is how do introverted stay at home home schooling mothers find sanity? The answer is they kick everyone out of the house….
Which makes me wonder, how many of the women I know who long to homeschool and fear they can’t are introverts too? Because the truth is homeschooling is anything but isolated. Don’t get me started on the socialization question, because I’ll have to stop laughing first. I was never as engaged in a community or active with friends as our 3 are, and we try to keep their schedule light…. So now I am praying God will make a way, because it’s what I need…. and perhaps if it is what other introverted mom’s need, then we can forge a path of Mom’s Day In together Because as faith filled faithful Moms, we really are trying to be all He has called us to be, without changing who He has made us to be, kwim?
I disagree with the author’s conclusion, and as I was reading, I came across several red flags that indicated to me why this author’s conclusion to attend a gay wedding was wrong. Below are some quotes (printed in bold) from the article that stood out as red flags. You can’t judge the state of someone’s soul, but you can objectively judge their actions. In addition, our Christian culture seems to ignore the nine ways we can be an accessory to sin, some of which seem to fit this scenario:
5.By Defense of Evil Done
The author begins by saying, ”I must also be honest with you and say that I have to submit my wisdom under the wisdom of the revealed scripture in regards to all facets of life. I don’t understand everything, like everything, and will have a long list of questions to reel off when I see God.”
This is the crux of the entire matter. While Catholics have the Magisterium and 2,000 years of tradition to help us form our consciences and come to good, moral decisions, every individual Protestant must reinvent the wheel by grappling with Scripture on his own. By submitting to the teaching authority of the Church, we can stand on the shoulders of all the wise men and women who have come before us.
We are all called to love, and there are indeed some Christian denominations who have vilified homosexuals, but the Catholic Church explicitly states in the Catechism that “Homosexuals must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.” So even if individual Catholics sin by not respecting the human dignity of everyone, homosexuals included, the Catholic teaching still holds us to the standard of Jesus Christ. You can’t lay the blame for hatred of homosexuals at the Catholic Church’s feet.
“To those who say that baking a cake communicates support for a non-biblical defilement of the institution of marriage, I’d suggest that we defile the institution of marriage all the time. 50% of the heterosexual Christian marriages end by defiling the institution through divorce.”
Ahhh, but as Catholics we don’t believe that marriage is dissoluble by divorce. In addition, the author never brings up that marriage is, by design, to be open to life. It is Protestant Christians who have indeed defiled marriage by the use of contraception and divorce. (Individual Catholics, of course, may be guilty of the same thing, but the Church Herself stands strong on these issues.) Gay marriage, polyamory, incest…it can all be traced back to Protestant Christians (and others, of course, including Catholics who contracept) chipping away at the institution of marriage. If we as Christians are not willing to defend marriage, why should the secular world?
“There is no sliding scale of sin.”
Actually, yes there is. It’s called mortal vs. venial sin. Isn’t it wonderful, honestly, how the Church in Her wisdom has foreseen all the evil men will do and has ready answers for us?
“The father knew that at all costs, keep the relationship open! This is why Hugh Halter bakes the cake, and shows up to be a friend at their wedding.”
Keeping a sincere, respectful relationship with a homosexual friend is a good thing, and could indeed allow for your Christian witness to have a positive effect on that person. However, participating in (like providing a cake) and even attending the wedding gives public witness that you approve of this union. Just as you should not attend a wedding contracted between divorced people, you should not publicly witness to a homosexual “union”.
“Your other option is to be a self-righteous jackwagon and you will never see them again. Your choice!”
This is where the author takes all of his attempts at measured reasoning and throws it away. So the homosexuals are not jackwagons for persisting in sin, but you are a jackwagon for lovingly calling them on it. It is not love to allow a friend to persist in sin! Christians are so eager to not be labeled judgmental, bigoted, or hate-filled, that many of us bend over backward to accommodate sin. But then again, I am a dogmatic jackwagon (or so I’ve been told).
Since there’s been a ruling, and I have time on my hands (ha ha ha), I wrote. Here is part 1. It’s all the Boomers fault No I’m not really saying that, what I am saying however, is if parents had done their part and stayed married we wouldn’t be here. The divorce epidemic created single parents, which then created women having children on their own as a toast to feminism (Murphy Brown in pop culture and real family members in reality), so dad’s weren’t included. Abortion only furthered the idea of dadless children. Since they aren’t theirs, they don’t get to choose. Then there’s the reality of roommates that we know: both are Christian, one is divorced with children, the other a single mom. These women aren’t gay, and there is a very real difference between 2 heterosexual women raising their own children and a homosexual couple raising a family, but how does a society removed from Judeo-Christian principals understand when we say one is ok and the other isn’t? Consider how many children have parents who have married 2, 3, 4, 5 times. Two of the dearest people in my life have experienced this. How many moms and dads do these kids have? My husband and I both come from divorced families, and all have remarried, with the exception of 1, who is still fully in the sacraments. The kids still ask why they have 7 grandparents. Did you know more cake, more presents, and more parties really aren’t all that fun? What if there’s an annulment and a remarriage? Those kids still have 2 moms and 2 dads too. Two of our dear friends are in this situation, and we see how God is using it, but it’s hard, and harder on the kids. I know they wouldn’t mind me sharing that. The reality is that Gen X kids have moms and dads everywhere, and it makes the case for “My 2 Dads,” and what comes next? 3 Men and a Baby. Take a look at the new movie Friends with Kids, where the “adults” decide they want a kid, but they want their own life too. No commitment or self-sacrifice is needed. They can have all of the benefits with none of the work, but when it becomes all about my needs, my wants, and my sexual fulfillment, who is forgotten? Next thing you know we’ll have magazines like Slate calling for the Legalization of Polygamy. Oh wait, they already did that. One look at the heterosexual family, the Christian family, and/or the existential family, and it’s really no wonder how they got there. We paved the way. To be continued….
Though my heart hurts when I hear Archbishop Chaput appeal for Catholic Charities in our area, I don’t see how I can give in good conscience.
Consider, Catholic Charities USA is a dues-paying member of an organization that advocates for public funding of abortion providers and of abortifacient contraceptives. Does this not make us seem duplicitous and hypocritical when fighting for religious freedom against the HHSMandate?
Then, consider Catholic Charities USA has invited a pro-gay ‘marriage’ priest to the annual keynote gathering. Catholic Charities actions demonstrate how people like Biden and Pelosi could go so astray. Worse, in my book actions like this give credence to Father Pflegar, who was a mentor to President Obama. In my humble opinion, these practices sow confusion at every level, and that is a horrible evil. Is there really any wonder our country is where it is
A big thank you to Mark Shea for alerting me to What’s Going on with Catholic Charities USA.
Lastly, I would like to encourage everyone to write their Diocese, so we can personally let our church leaders know why we aren’t giving. We did!
I’ve seen people state they won’t sign this petition, because it is a White House petition. My response to that is this: if you won’t stand up for someone in need, who will stand up for you? Would you stand up for Jesus? Yes, I went there, because this is real. This is someone’s family, someone’s children, someone’s life, and our Justice Department wants to tear it apart. In only 12 days, the petition to seek a formal response from our President to the plight of the Romeike family will close. If HSLDA doesn’t gain 45 thousand more signatures by then, the petition will simply be erased from the White House website.
When it is our turn, who will stand up for us? NOW is the time to act. Let’s not allow fear of the government to stop us from standing up for what is right! Get all the instructions you need by going to www.hslda.org/romeike
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Praying for marriage today. The thought occurred to me yesterday, if the court uses the same logic it used to uphold Obamacare, marriage will be protected (i.e., let the voters decide, elections have consequences, & it is a state issue). I think I want to hug Roberts about now… Instead I will keep praying. Lord hear our prayer. Hear the cries of your people, and protect your children, because this is not and has never been about 2 people’s individual freedom. This has always been about infiltrating schools, the early sexualization of our children, and the ability to remove the church from the public square (as an organization of hate). Don’t believe me? Look at the states where this is precedent, and this is what happens every day
From today’s Gospel reading, John 11:45-56, I was particularly struck by verses 49 -52.
But one of them, Caiaphas, who was high priest that year,* said to them, “You know nothing, nor do you consider that it is better for you that one man should die instead of the people, so that the whole nation may not perish.” He did not say this on his own, but since he was high priest for that year, he prophesied that Jesus was going to die for the nation, and not only for the nation, but also to gather into one the dispersed children of God.
I’m no theological scholar. I’m certainly not an expert in apologetics, but I couldn’t help but think of the common criticism “Why do Catholics need a Pope?” and the verse Matthew 5:17, “Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the prophets. I have come not to abolish but to fulfill.” Christ is the word made flesh (John 1). He wrote the law, and it was good, so good He was willing to suffer, die, and be buried for our transgressions to fulfill it. It was a law so good that He was willing to give a gift of love so amazing, we memorialize the day He saved us from it’s death sentence by taking our place, and we call it Good Friday.
So I have more than once thought it is reasonable to presuppose that His will before His death would remain after His Resurrection. After all, He is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow (Hebrews13:8). In other words, He ordained for a high priest. He ordained for Caiaphas, and even though Caiaphas himself did not understand, and was about to kill his God, the One who would fulfill it all, he still had the gift of prophesy, because he was in a position God directed. Why would that position and the gifts stop, because Christ fulfilled the law? Again, His word says He didn’t come to abolish His law. His word says He doesn’t change from yesterday (before crucifixion) to tomorrow (after crucifixion), and His word testifies to the preexistence of Himself, the incarnate Logos, who reveals God the Father. If the Pentecostal church can embrace men and women, who they recognize as anointed with the gifts of prophesy, words of knowledge, and revelation, why is it so hard to believe that the same God, who gave Caphias revelation would still give the High Priest of His church today, the same (aka papal infallibility)?
It’s times like this I wish I could speak with eloquence, and reveal His mysteries in a way that would make it all plain as day, because there is so much evil, the battle is great, the world is dark, and I long for us, His children, to be united, edifying each other, supporting one another, and building each other up, as we journey home through the dark days ahead. It is in that spirit, I say this with the best of my love.
If we have to dismantle this law piece by piece, brick by brick, so be it.
The fact that the mainstream media is not carrying this story speaks volumes, as this does not comport with their political beliefs, unlike the mass killings committed with guns.